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…using what you have

February 12, 2008

i have known ariss for over 10+ years now so i was grateful that adrian and her wanted me to take some engagement photos for them. i would have loved to have had some outdoor photos but the weather is so cold here and it just wasn’t possible! i know better know better NOW as ariss was the very first senior picture and let’s just say that cold fingers + camera equipment + freezing clients are not a good combination!

while reading one of my daily blogs about photography, the blogger linked to a story about dating that i found fascinating.

we have a young lady who believes she is attractive but only wants to date->marry someone who could provide for her. the problem is that she doesn’t know where to meet the right guy.

i think it is (ok in principal) for a woman to try to date someone who can provide for her, but there are always somebody who will take it to far.

thoughts?

link

What a classic answer…..

THIS APPEARED ON CRAIG’S LIST

What am I doing wrong?

Okay, I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I’m articulate and classy.
I’m not from New York . I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don’t think I’m overreaching at all.

Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 – 250. But that’s where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won’t get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she’s not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?

Here are my questions specifically:

- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms

-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won’t hurt my feelings

-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I’m 25)?

- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I’ve seen really ‘plain jane’ boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I’ve seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What’s the story there?

- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows – lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?

- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY

Please hold your insults – I’m putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I’m being up front about it. I wouldn’t be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn’t able to match them – in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.

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THE ANSWER

I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament.
Firstly, I’m not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here’s how I see it.

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here’s why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here’s the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity…in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t be getting any more beautiful!

So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold…hence the rub…marriage. It doesn’t make good business sense to “buy you” (which is what you’re asking) so I’d rather lease. In case you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as “articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful”
as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn’t found you, if not only for a tryout.

By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn’t need to have this difficult conversation.

With all that said, I must say you’re going about it the right way.
Classic “pump and dump.”
I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.

the ‘b’ side

August 14, 2006

remember 12″ vinyls? (you don’t? wow!!….you must be really young or i must be pretty old? nah…your just too young) anyway, side ‘b’ always contained the remix version of the song on side ‘a’ so for tiffany and brian i figured i would create a side b of two of my favorite images from their eSession.

in the first image the lighting was PATHETIC but the scene was interesting, and in the second the lighting was great but the broken down building was hard on the eyes! i would rather have great lighting but its sort of hard to convince a client to have their wedding shots by a brokend down garbage dump if you know what i mean :-)

kistina.kevin

August 9, 2006

shandrea took the lead position again as i believe she is getting more comfortable behind the lens and she really captured some nice shots! working with kistina and kevin was nice as they allowed me to do take some more creative shots…some worked and some…didn’t :-(

the world is certainly a small place as i found out later that she works with someone that is very close to me…hmmm i wonder if they were talking about me? sherri

anyway, i just wanted to say congrats kistina & kevin and may your marriage be a model for everyone!

heather.ray

August 7, 2006

congratulations heather and ray! your wedding turned out great! all the planning and decision making really paid off! having an outdoor wedding has a lot of risks and it was so good to see that the weather came out great!

shandrea and i want to thank you for letting us participate in your fabulous day!
here are some of the images from your wedding.

i know…i know! but it fits the theme of the wedding venue so… :-)

the ‘red bridge’

July 20, 2006

cassie.andrew

July 20, 2006

congratulation cassie and andrew on a great wedding! i was talking to her mother before the ceremony and during this conversation it came out that cassie and andrew were believers in Christ Jesus and that just made my day!

kirstie.kevin

July 20, 2006

yeah i know its really….really late posting images from some of the weddings that I did over the last few months/weeks!! here are just a few from kirstie and kevin’s wedding. they are really nice couple and i found out that they are video gamers also!